What would YOU do?
Yes, I totally ripped that graphic off of MSN. And don't get any ideas. I am not, unfortunately, engaged. Though, you know, that'd be kind of nice.
Anyway, what I'm getting at with this post is this: Girls, would you ever propose to a guy? And by "propose" I mean, would you ever really ask the question, not just hint around at it until he takes the bait?
And guys, how would you feel if the girl pulled out a ring, got down on one knee and asked you to marry her?
I'm just curious. I don't think that the girl popping the question is as common and trendy as MSN's making it. What do you think?
Here are the links, in case any of you need pointers.
How to Propose to Her
How to Propose to Him (And by the way, I really like the guy's corduroy blazer in the photo.)
posted by Lauren | 9:21 PM
19 Comments:
Of course you like the corduroy blazer. And no, I would not get "down on one knee." No way, no how. Wait. Does pushing the guy down on HIS knee count? (Really, I don't want a guy to get on his knee.) I just want him to look at me from level ground. I want to be equal. No poses of worship (i.e., down on one knee). Just a room full o' balloons and a large Kitchen Aid mixer, thanks.
It would depend on the woman, on the dynamics of our relationship, and on the level of commitment already existent. I can envision scenarios in which a woman proposing would be wonderful, and others in which it would be off-putting.
Frankly I think the whole elaborate proposal + kneeling + flahy-engagement-ring (why can't I just get her a FABULOUS wedding ring?), etc. is a bunch of empty pageantry. I mean, I'll do it all when it comes time to propose, because I know women expect it and will probably resent its absence. ;) If a woman were to propose to me however, I'd rather she told me sincerely and privately how she felt about me and that she wanted to spend the rest of her life (and beyond) with me. That would be more romantic and more compelling to me than any showy material display.
I don't plan to do the proposing. I think Matt Pond should propose. With an antique ring from Portobello Market, not some flashy diamond. Other than that, I'm not fussed.
i would feel totally emasculated.
nice in theory, like communism.
sara, good call on the kitchen aid, those things are beautiful. chrome, or vintage green, for sure.
I would have never proposed. Although I did do my share of hinting. I eventually threatened to move out of state and Blake proposed a month later. Sometimes you need to manipulate the system a little.
Totally Chrome or Vintage green Mr. Clark! Have you seen the new chocolate brown, though? Lindsey, the more you speak, the more I like you.
You know, I've never really day dreamed about the actual moment of HIM asking ME or vice versa. I just go straight from dating to our wedding day. I guess if I spent time imagining things it would probably be him asking me (and since I'm imagining, I think we all know who my future groom would be -- Forever Fallon).
ooh, chocolate brown?
that's my new favorite
Who are all these Mr.'s and when did it become such a popular first name?
I have no idea to what you are referring.
Sara: I like what that guy wrote on your blog, "So... as tall as you tend to like your guys, wouldn't it take a kneel to get him looking at you from the equal, level ground you're wanting?"
G: Yeah, I think Matt would be the kind of guy that would think up a really cool proposal. And I want an antique ring, too! (But maybe just a nice band so I'm not scratching my future kids with a huge rock.)
Lindsey: Thanks for commenting! That's cool. I didn't know you read my blog. I read yours, too!
Ian: I agree with the whole flashy material display argument. I think a cool, thoughtful proposal would mean more than a flashy ring.
Mr. Clark/Pulsipher: I totally agree with you about the vintage green KitchenAid mixer. Hey! We agree on something. :)
And Lexia: Ahh, dreams of Jimmy. I can totally picture him in a tux with his hair sticking up and you walking down the aisle doing a little skip. Maybe I shouldn't have fueled the fire...
I found this article (http://sun.dixie.edu/index.php?pg=story&storyid=1642), but only because MC Frontalot linked to this one (http://sun.dixie.edu/index.php?pg=story&storyid=1634)...and yes, MC Frontalot is a real rapper. He's from San Francisco.
The author basically asserts that if women want equal rights, they need to start meeting men halfway in the realm of dating and romance as well. Otherwise it's not "equal rights" but rather "special priviliges." ;)
What Ian said about women and equal rights is true, so I'd just like to say that I HAVE been meeting guys halfway. I've asked 2 guys out within the last year!
I haven't been meeting guys half-way. Nor will I. Women have to go through childbirth. I think THEY can ask a girl out.
Sara: Right on, sister! If only more women were like you!
Lauren: So does that mean you'll give up all those other rights women've been gaining over the years too? ;) Like having a career? Besides, it's not like a single date means you WILL be getting pregnant by that man, so it's hardly a fair comparison...
Oh and one of my readers showed me this: http://www.neofire.com/heptarch/img/060225_goodhousekeeping.jpg
A chilling gaze into our dark and terrible past.
Ian,
As far as I'm concerned, having a career is not a privilege these days. It's a necessity.
And giving up other rights? I'm as "women's lib" as the next girl these days. But true liberation comes in realizing our gender not bending our feminity into a man's role. And you know what, I dare say, I think feminism has had SEVERAL negative effects on our parents' and our generations. Want me to list 'em? 'Cause I will. The list starts with divorce.
And, no, "it's not like a single date means you WILL be getting pregnant by that man". Obviously. But a man will never give birth. So the least they can do is drop a set long enough to ask girls out. You know what my point is. Don't pretend it doesn't make sense. You're just copping out. Justifying.
Actually I was just poking fun. ;D Although now that I know how to get a rise out of you...
I used to be a staunch supporter of the feminist movement until I couldn't ignore its excesses and double-standards anymore. I agree with most of what you said; too many women think they have to mimic men to be strong, successful and fulfilled. Although I do think the increased access to divorce has helped many women (and men) get out of horribly abusive relationships.
Regardless I still think it would nice if, once in a while, women would take the romantic initiative.
Once in a while, huh?
How many girls have you asked out lately, Ian?
Once in a while.
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